Those types that styles...

...Have you noticed that many of the bullying that is going around high schools in all the world, is because of someones style or way being.

I think we all life in a society in which everything we do is going to be criticized not only by our friends, but our surrounding, such as the internet. Nowadays teens post their pictures in places such as Facebook, twitter, instagram, snap-chat... and some people get to make people believe things that are not right.

This type of bullying that occurs behind a phone or a computer, is called cyber bullying and it makes teens be scared about everything because they do not feel comfortable with themselves because there is or there is not an anonymous person making a child feel depressed about their body, their face, their race, their being, and people should stop making people feel like that.

 I would not like feeling how my mom, dad, boyfriend, friend, or anyone being bullied because they are humans, and humans have feelings.

When everything goes left, go right.

          Once,  I remember I was feeling depressed because I had a bad day with my close friends and one of my closest friend came up to me and told me "Hey Inés, stop thinking about whay did you did wrong. Because if you believe you did not do anything wrong, don't start believing what does people want you to believe so that you go straight to them and tell them sorry por anything. And lil goofy (that's how she calls me) when things go left, turn right".

          Stop for a moment, isn't that right? Sometimes people come up to you with some strange problem about what should I do? What should I say? Well, if you are right, clearly not what they want to listen. You are the one affected by the problem, not the other individual. 

"Don't want to listen something that I don't believe I am"

                  How to turn right? Once the problem is just on top of you, just take a moment and think why that happened and why would you want to make the other person feel guilty of what he/she has done, and then when you think you are capable of talking seriously but calm, go for it, talk about the problem in a calmed way, trying to understand why that happened.

Weak weeks

HAVEN'T YOU EVER HAD DOES WEEKS IN WHICH YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW WHERE YOU ARE?

Those times in which you feel that you are taking decisions not by thinking about them, just taking one decision and seeing what happens, because you don't feel strength.

Once feeling weak, think why other days you are feeling strong. Is it your friendships? family? sport? academic achievements?

Once you have identified why you feel weak, think about what are you going to lose if you feel so weak that you don't even focus in what really matters in that moment, maybe: exams? quizzes? studying for any important subject? health? family? And just PUSH yourself up, and think that if you fall 1000 times, you can stand up 1001. 

Personally, when I feel weak, what I really do is go for a run, to feel that I'm strong, that physically I'm strong. And that 1 hour run, makes me feel strong, makes my negative thoughts fade away and try to have a positive attitude. Facing my problems in a positive way makes me feel secure of myself. 

Motivation as a goal.

What I've been doing over these few days without posting anything was, basically thinking about: What really motivates me? And I asked my self 3 questions: 

- How do I achieve my goals?

-When do I want to set my self a goal?

-By who I am pushed forward to go on and try it?

Sincerely, I was blocked out when I started thinking about that, because I'm not concerned about what is surrounding me everyday: friends, teachers, family, unknown people, society problems, economic problems, cultural problems... everything surrounding us make us not be concerned about what is happening and if what you really want to achieve is going to be possible or not. 

What I've been noticing is that people that you are important to are going to be there, everyday, pushing you to the next level, but that doesn't mean that you just don't need to do anything, the key words here are HARD WORK. With hard work you can achieve that level of self-esteem that makes you feel good and proud of yourself. But, it always happens... When you put all of your effort in something and then you feel that you have not achieved it on what you have been putting effort, hours, and hours on it, you have even lost "fun" time for that, because you where really thinking that is the time to show everyone what you are capable of doing, how does that feel? Yes, is tough isn't it? I'm sure everyone has felt like that before. Really under your own pressure. 

Let's be positive. We are human beings, we can commit an error, we can have really tough years because sometimes you don't feel capable of doing anything. 

I have always been a positive person, and wanted to see everything positively, trying to understand every type of situation someone believe he/she is in and trying to put my self in his/her position, and give them advice or a tip to get the problem away as soon as possible, or just being mentally strong and being sure of them selves. When really tough times come on to you, just make yourself some questions: What do I really want? What would I recommend a friend to do if he/she had the same problem? Do I want to solve this problem? Am I going to stop studying because it worries me? 

Am I going to stop studying because it worries me? That question is the one that you really need to think about, worrying too much and having that problem in your mind and does not let you study the way you should. Problems always have a solution. You can have 2 problems, the one you've got and the one you are creating to your self. Think about your future constantly, not in a 25 year future, but in the 2 years time future. And really focus that if an economic world wild crisis has a solution, a day-life problem has it too. Be secure of your self when you really want to solve a problem, to go ahead and say what you really think (but careful, with appropriate words and thinking two times before saying it). 

Why is giving up not an option?

When difficult times approach our days it's not easy to push our selves to a positive way of thinking. We just close our minds and think the way we really want it to be. We don't want anyone giving their opinion or really trying hard to make you see what someone from the other side sees, you just want to hide on what you really believe or think.

What experts define giving up is by:  

       A procedure in securities or commodities trading where the executing broker places a trade on behalf of another broker as if he/she actually executed the trade.

        This meaning that you don't believe in yourself and in your possibilities, because maybe what is surrounding you in those moments it's not making you want to move forward and try. The key work is "try". If you don't try you don't know if you are good at it, you don't even know if you are bad at it. 

Once knowing you are not that good, you can at least keep trying if what you are wanting is that. But trying, is always part of hard working to achieve a goal. Once, Mr. Smith, the director of my school, had a talk with me about my options getting into University with an Athletic scholarship, and what he said once I sat was: "Ines, you can achieve what you want, working hard and keeping trying..." he remembered me, who he is, how much experience he has and basically, he was right. 

        Many times we see ourselves not able to go ahead and do something, sometimes because of our prejudices and the stereotyped society we live everyday but that's not an excuse. We basically need to push ourselves up and go for it, simply chasing your dreams till you achieve them. 

We, as humans, tend to commit the same error thinking that tough times with time, makes it less tough.